What’s up with mom’s today? We hit a certain age or status in life and lose ourselves. I know I did it. There seems to be an expectation of a role that needs to be played in order to fit in, or have your kids fit in. I did it. Until one day I looked in the mirror and wondered who in the heck that was……
Or MAYBE, just maybe, I never knew who I was. That just hit me. Was the me I am now just buried and I was afraid to let her out? I grew up in a very conservative, religious household, so that definitely could be the case. Was it a mid-life crisis that made me finally see the light? I sure hope not because a crisis would indicate something being wrong. I never felt something was wrong - just that I was sort of evolving.
I wish I had found myself a while back. I feel like I miss out on a lot.
I think most of these women I see driving around in mini vans driving their kids to a million activities secretly have a wild side but would never explore it. Women are amazing at being the ultimate martyrs. Everything must be given up because they now have kids to take care of. Kind of a “let yourself go” mentality, all for what they think is a greater cause - their kids. In the long run, what they don’t realize, is that it benefits the family, kids, husband - to have a mom/wife that is happy, has things she does for herself. Knows who she is.
My dearest friend and I went to a production recently down in Denver called “Girls Only, The Secret Comedy of Women”. It was hilarious by the way. I appreciated all the ideas of what crafts can be done with tampons when I hit the age I won’t need them any longer.
My friend and I decided that since it was down in Denver and we don’t get out much (she has younger kids), that we would dress up a bit. I knew though what the rest of the crowd (very small venue) would be wearing and I was hesitant but went along with it. We were two good lookin’ gals out for the evening. Yes, we put on heels! When we got there the only seats left were right up front, practically in the spotlight. I was right. A quick appraisal of the audience as we sat there enjoying our alcoholic beverage (we seemed to be the only ones) was mostly women who seemed to not give a crap. Mom jeans galore (if you don’t know what I’m talking about here you must go find the Saturday Night Live skit), turtle necks, those comfy shoes. We had another friend come up to us and tell us it looked like we were going out clubbing and then had to make a comment on our choice of beverage. I didn’t realize dressing nice constituted going out clubbing, but okay. I guess they really don’t get out much.
So yes, I sport my tattoos, I’m looking forward to the rock concert we are going to in a couple of weeks. I don’t drive a mini van but I do wear Vans and I don’t own a pair of Keds. I work out, wear low rise jeans and band t-shirts and thank goodness I have a husband, son and a couple of friends I love dearly who “get me”.
If you’re a mini van mom reading this I’m sorry if I offended you. Go get a tattoo - it’s liberating 
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